3 simple tips to end sibling fighting

by ParentCo. May 18, 2015

boy and girl sitting on a bench looking at the sea

Here are three simple tweaks that can break a cycle of sibling arguing and fighting. They're the necessary first steps to creating more peace, harmony, and enjoyment in your home. In the next post, I'll expand on these with seven more tips to end sibling fighting. But this is where you begin.

1. If you're still trying to make your children get along, the solution is simple: STOP. But first, I want you to observe their fighting and stop getting involved.

2. Because kids usually fight for their parents, the solution is just to watch what happens when you act like you don’t notice. Walk out of the room or act like you found something more interesting to pay attention to. That doesn’t mean you ignore a situation where you think someone is in serious jeopardy of being hurt, but it does mean you learn to ignore the fighting that is designed to engage YOU.

When my kids were little, I walked around with headphones and pretended to listen to music. This drove them nuts, but within a few short minutes, they were either dancing with me or laughing at my taste in music. In either case, the fighting stopped, and we could move on with our day.

In either case, the fighting stopped, and we could move on with our day.

3. If you are doing things for your children that they could do for themselves, the solution is to: Invite, Train, Encourage and Support your children as they begin to engage in navigating the hills and valleys of their lives.

By inviting, training, encouraging and supporting your children, you'll begin to notice that everyone is in a new relationship with each other. No one will seem all that interested in fighting with each other.

If you just realized that you do too much for your children, I invite you to learn more about how to implement the Timeline for Training Strategy.




ParentCo.

Author



Also in Conversations

Screw Working Mom Guilt! My Kids Benefit From My Career

by ParentCo.

I’m a working mom, and not only do I not feel guilty about the time I spend away from my children, I believe they benefit greatly from me working in many ways..

Continue Reading

adult hand holding newborn baby's hand
10 Tips for Single Parents With New Babies

by Charlie Fletcher

It’s easy and understandable for single parents to feel overwhelmed. Here are some ways to help you take the best care of yourself and your little one.

Continue Reading

mom working out with child
5 Ways Working Out Makes Me a More Fit Parent

by ParentCo.

Exercise helps me be a better mom. I often apply the wisdom of the phrases I hear when I'm working out to the many parenting challenges I encounter.

Continue Reading