35 Ways to Say Yes to Your Kids' Big Ideas

by Parent Co. June 08, 2017

A mother is enjoying with her kid by lifting on her kegs

I wonder how many times parents say “no” to their kids through their lifetime. Studies reveal that there is value in teaching kids the meaning and importance of “no.” An article in The New York Times details findings of research showing that the less children have, the more creative and resourceful they become. The more we provide children with every little thing they ask for, the more we stifle their creativity and problem-solving skills. The ramifications of kids not taking disapproval or refusal of permission seriously are vast and deep. But, this isn’t an article about saying “no.” An excerpt from an article in CHILD magazine discusses the benefit of saying “yes” to play. seeking freelance writers to submit work about families, parenting and kids “A pay-off of active play with kids is that the more time we spend in their world, the more co-operative they’re likely to be when we want them to join our world, whether it’s a trip to the store or a visit to an aunt.” Essentially, if we say yes to their creative, imaginative, big ideas as often as possible, when we do say “no” or need to have high expectations of their behavior, they’ll step up and meet the challenge. I definitely want my children to bring their big ideas for the purpose of meeting a challenge. So I’m trying to say yes more often. It goes without saying (I hope!) that I use good parenting judgement, consider safety, appropriateness, yadda yadda. I don’t passively let my kids do whatever they want. Here are some examples: “Will you play this game with me, mama?” “Absolutely!” “Can I watch another show?” “Nope. Not right now.” “Can we do that experiment again we did the other day?” “Definitely sometime soon!” Every time I am able to agree to something my child wants to explore, play, or learn, his face lights up. I can see confidence growing. To add some flavor to this “yes parent” approach, I made a list of affirmative answers. Agreement and a vocabulary building lesson? Lead on!
  1. Affirmative
  2. 10-4
  3. Absolutely
  4. Positively
  5. Definitely
  6. Certainly
  7. For sure
  8. Right on
  9. You got it
  10. You bet
  11. Of course
  12. Indeed
  13. Thumbs up
  14. By all means
  15. Ay-ay
  16. Okie-dokie
  17. Yeah
  18. Yuppers
  19. Roger
  20. Totally
  21. Okay
  22. Totes
  23. Sounds good
  24. Sure thing
  25. Gladly
  26. Indubitably
  27. Undoubtedly
  28. Please do
  29. You’ve got it
  30. No problem
  31. Bring it on
  32. Count me in
  33. You betcha
  34. Surely
  35. Alright
Pick a few and try them out today!


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