Maybe you've seen it by now- the Instagram photo that went viral of a woman sitting on the toilet, contents of the cabinet strewn all over, while a standing toddler helps herself to the woman's right boob. Looking directly into the camera, she smiles with raised eyebrows as if to say, "Yep. Same crazy, different day."
As expected, the photo, with a caption that asked "what's your mom truth?" ignited plenty of discussion. Little was in response to her question.
I've nursed a baby on the toilet. You know where I haven't nursed a baby? In a field of daisies while a gentle breeze blew through my hair.
One of these scenarios is the real life nitty gritty. One only happens in stock photos.
Like her accompanying hashtag suggests, #MotherhoodAintPretty. In fact, motherhood can be downright gross. And momentarily breastfeeding a demanding kid while on the toilet in your own bathroom is far from the worst of it.
Is it an overshare? Of course it is. I have a strict "no taking photos of people on the toilet" philosophy. Hell, I probably wouldn't let you take a photo of me without mascara. But there's something to be said for being honest about the messiness that is raising small people.
Here is a list of truly things disgusting things I've done as a mother and guess what? None of them occurred while lounging in the countryside.
1. I've performed mouth to nose on a congested baby, spitting the gelatinous contents into a handkerchief and only gagged a little.
2. I instinctively leapt toward a retching toddler to catch vomit with my bare hands.
3. Two words: LICE. INFESTATION
4. I've woken up in a puddle of piss, completely disgusted and equally relieved that it wasn't my own.
5. I've spent a collective six and a half days standing around in public bathrooms waiting for a singing child to WRAP IT UP.
6. I've stashed prized princess urine soaked underwear in my purse because tossing them and dealing with that nuclear fallout was less appealing.
7. These people have sneezed and coughed directly INTO MY MOUTH.
8. I have eaten mashed banana from the fat sweaty hand of a gracious baby and managed to make an "mmmm!" sound while not totally grimacing.
10. I've scooped turds out of a bath tub.
11. I've lost the game of "water or week old milk" when fishing sippy cups from under the couch.
12. I've played the game which truly has no winners, "where is that vomit smell coming from?"
13. I have inadvertently eaten goldfish that were soggy for reasons undetermined.
14. I have spent an afternoon wearing a shirt that had a legit streak of baby shit on it due to a carrier/diaper malfunction. (No one ever tells you to throw a change of clothes for yourself in the diaper bag. But to be fair, it was a walk downtown. Not a jungle safari.)
15. I have spot cleaned spit up out of an otherwise clean pair of jeans.
16. Milking myself like a cow, directly into the crusty eye of my irritated newborn.
17. In a moment of panic, I licked perfume out of the eye of my toddler who, unbeknownst to me, had snatched a bottle off the shelf in Macy's and fired it right into her face. The blood-curdling scream nearly shattered the shelving.
18. The "clean their faces with saliva" animal instinct is strong.
19. My potty training toddler crapped her pants at the private beach a few blocks from home, and because I didn't want to make matters worse with a ride home in the wagon and bathing suit bottoms sagging under the weight, I looked for an answer. It came in the form of a discarded coffee cup, complete with lid.
20. I've pulled teeth that were hanging sideways in the mouth of a child who cried for 20 minutes because he wanted me to pull it out, but not actually get within six feet of him.
21. Perhaps the most disgusting of all... I've shared their backwash laden drinks. OMG. Is that an entire sandwich at the bottom?
What is the most disgusting thing you've done since becoming a parent?
It’s the New Year, and I have been doing a lot of thinking. I want to say, with all of my heart and all of my soul, that I am sorry. I want apologize for anything (and everything) I have said or done that made you feel less-than or sad or small.
This year I am resolving, with a twist. There will be no diet, exercise, less swearing and drinking, "more church" kind of resolutions. This year I'm simply letting go of the things that are just not productive nor conducive to my life. This is the year I give up several of my hard-earned mom-related titles.
Surround yourself and your kids with piles of magazines and update vision boards for the fresh, new year to come. If nothing else came from this evening together, we exercised our creativity and bonded while reenacting some of the over-the-top advertisements we came across.