On Valentine's Day, for My Daughter

by ParentCo. February 02, 2022

a child placing stickers on her mom

Valentine’s Day isn’t for everyone. I know it’s a commercial holiday. I know it’s overwrought with last-minute stuffed animals, chocolate boxes, and grocery store flowers.

Still, I unapologetically love it. I love that there's a day in our calendar dedicated to love, that forces people to reflect upon those they love. It’s an annual reminder of all that is - and all that is not. Fate has handed me reasons to dislike Valentine’s Day. A cheating college boy broke up with me one Valentine’s Day. I spent another living alone in a motel with my 22-month-old after her father left and we lost our home. I’m a high school teacher who witnesses ridiculous teen professions of love, overpriced gifts, and hopeless loneliness come February 14. Still I can’t hate this holiday.

When my daughter was three-years-old, I came across a beautiful poem by Sarah Kay called “If I Should Have a Daughter.” I promised myself that one day I would share this poem with my own daughter. Kay spells out the bitterness and sweetness that life can offer and how that translates from a mother to a daughter.

 Like Kay, no matter what tragedy or challenge comes my way, I choose to savor the sweetness of life. I wish the same for my daughter. I want her to know that life can be hard, unfair, and unforgivable. It will smash you to pieces at times – but I also want her to remember that life is also made of sugar and sweet. I don't want her to forget to taste the sweet. This morning my daughter was full of love and hugs and Valentine’s Day declarations. She made a Valentine’s Day shrine in Minecraft. Today is a day to bask in the sweet.




ParentCo.

Author



Also in Conversations

How to Prepare your Toddler for a Parent’s Trip Away
How to Prepare your Toddler for a Parent’s Trip Away

by Yelena Shuster

Before you spend weeks creating endless to-do lists to help your toddler while you’re away, take a step back and prep yourself first. Here's a simple guide.

Continue Reading

women holding pride flag
4 Ways to Support Your LGBTQ Teen

by ParentCo.

As parents, we have to be ready to have all sorts of big conversations. When it comes to coming out, there are a few simple things to remember.

Continue Reading

 little boy playing with colorful modeling clay
Raising a Financially Savvy Kid

by Angela Pruess

These are some straightforward ways parents can take the ‘money bull’ by the horns and help their children start out on solid monetary ground.

Continue Reading