Whether or not we validate our kids’ emotions will ultimately have an impact on their ability to manage those emotions well beyond the childhood years.
Without the benefit of actual experience, it’s impossible to develop the true understanding that empathy requires.
I thought maybe we if we all contacted Spirit Halloween, they’d take this costume off their shelves next year:
As a mother who sometimes screams, who is unsure of herself, I’m still practicing how to accept my own imperfections. My own failings.
Maybe he was never home because his work was the main thing putting a roof over our heads. He didn’t speak English, nor did he have a college degree.
It’s 2017 and I have learned to smile again. I have two amazing “rainbow babies.” Still, I do not forget where I came from.
There is a way to be genuine with your kids, have a good relationship, and still be the parent. You aren’t losing your influence, it’s just changing.
By shifting my focus from protecting myself to helping my teenage daughter manage her angst, I learned to “not engage.”
Understanding the vital role of connection in brain function makes it easier to step back, and listen to the feelings underneath the ugly words.
We can’t assume the world’s out to get us, even when it feels like it is, and in parenting, it often does.