Great TED Video to Rewatch: “Let’s Talk Parenting Taboos”

4 taboos that parents never, ever admit — and why they should.

Babble.com publishers Rufus Griscom and Alisa Volkman, in a lively tag-team, expose 4 facts that parents never, ever admit — and why they should. Funny and honest, for parents and nonparents alike.

  • Taboo number one: you can’t say you didn’t fall in love with your baby in the very first minute.
  • Taboo number two. You can’t talk about how lonely having a baby can be.
  • Taboo number three: you can’t talk about your miscarriage.
  • Taboo number four: you can’t say that your average happiness has declined since having a child.

Embrace Your Breakdown – It Might Be The Best Thing For You

This great “Sanity of Madness” video from The School of Life reminds us how “breakdowns” can force us to course-correct.

“There’s so much pressure on us to be always rational, calm and sensible: it’s time also to say a word about the essential normality of a little madness.”

This great “Sanity of Madness” video from The School of Life reminds us that “breakdowns” can force us to course-correct by slowing us down to learn about ourselves, our lives, and adjust our priorities.

Tips for Helping Kids (And Parents) Enjoy Family Roadtrips

A quick video of tips for less annoying family roadtrips – including how to answer “are we there yet?” for the 1000th time.

A quick video of tips for less annoying family roadtrips – including how to answer “are we there yet?” for the 1000th time.

Featuring Vicki Hoefle, parent educator, teacher here at Parent.co, and author of Duct Tape Parenting and The Straight Talk on Parenting.

The battle in this music video is actually a beautiful lullaby

“Nothing I had done before did anything to prepare me for you.”

 

Motherhood is the juxtaposition of many things. Badassery and softness. Energy and exhaustion. Who we are, versus who we thought we were.

On Swale’s 2014 album, The Next Instead, keyboardist and singer, Amanda Gustafson delivers a startlingly honest and beautiful song about her experience as a new mother. More than appropriately titled, Beaten Down, it was written as a sort of lullaby to her first child. Like many of the songs she writes, it began with the melody and the first line. (“I thought I was beaten down, then you beat me down.” SING IT, SISTER.)

“It’s like a ghost shows up, and then I have to figure out why it’s there.”

Thankfully, she did.

It seems impossible that our journeys as parents are so unique yet so universal at the same time. But there’s not a single lyric that doesn’t have to push its way past the lump in my throat as I sing along (What would I give for that voice?) It resonates, from beginning to end.

“The feeling of being beaten down is coming face to face with the reality of what I’m going to mother like. And that’s a hard realization. Because you will be mad at an infant.”

 The video, shot at the Northern New England Golden Gloves of Vermont,spanned less than three weeks from concept to shooting . And while Shem Roose shot footage of several different fights of both men and women, it became clear during the editing there was only one match they wanted to use. Hannah Rodrigue vs. Anna Gagnon. (The fact that their uniforms matched the band’s clothing and instruments was a complete coincidence.)

“This feels very particularly a woman’s fight. The pressure that we put on ourselves to be kind and loving and sweet mothers- that’s our expectation of ourselves and the battle is to be that all the time.” 

Hear more Swale and follow them on Facebook.

Our 45-Second Video, 20 Years in the Making

The movie Boyhood  has earned huge buzz and won numerous awards. Shot over 12 years, it’s a coming of age story about one boy growing up from age 12 to 18 in a broken home. It’s a seamless depiction of the authentic journey of a single character, played by a single actor, growing from boyhood to manhood.

It’s a beautifully executed film. It’s also a technical accomplishment, representing a tremendous commitment of time, focus and energy.

A lucky few of us have parents that were dedicated to documenting our childhoods with such care. John Dolan is one of those parents. He’s an extremely talented photographer who captured the growth of his children over 20 years via photography and Super 8 footage.

After seeing the exceptional archive John created for his daughter, we realized that it was a stunning example of what we want all parents to  achieve for their children with Notabli.

In fact, we loved his work so much we commissioned the actual footage of his daughter and hired talented video produce  Joe Tomcho to create our first professional video.

A Beautiful Reminder

On the surface, this is a simple product video with a story and emotional hook. But it’s also asking parents to imagine having their child’s story preserved in a single private archive.

John’s experience with his kids is somewhat unique. As a professional, he had the tools to document their lives. But even now, as smartphones have made it easy for parents to snap thousands photos of their kids, it’s rare for parents to have a single, organized, private archive of these moments in one place.

We’re taking more photos and videos of our kids than any generation in history. But how are we actually preserving and organizing these memories for our children?

Like the producers of Boyhood, John had a commitment to documenting his children’s experiences over two decades.  He knew he wanted to create a record of their lives to pass down to them.

I believe that many of us will regret that we scattered our memories all over the internet on social media accounts and other sites.

We’re capturing  sights, sounds and scenes that our children will wonder about and love to return to. But where are we keeping them? Where will you turn when they ask “Can you show me what my room looked like when I was 3? “What did my first bike look like?” “What did Grandpa’s voice sound like?”

Assembling the video for Notabli was a reminder of why we’re building it in the first place. Thank you John Dolan and family for these beautiful images and inspiration.