What essential items do we want to have available during labor?
Who will we notify when labor begins. How? (call, text, social media)
How will we use electronics in labor? (apps, devices, phone usage)
How will we track and time contractions at home?
At what point in labor will we go to the hospital?
Will music or sound therapy be part of labor?
Where are our thoughts on where in the room everyone should be during the delivery?
Should we document the birth with photos or video or both?
What specific pressure or massage techniques for pain relief can be applied?
Thoughts on medicated labor?
What medication options will we have available?
What words will we use to communicate that medication is necessary?
What type of support will be most effective when the going gets tough?
Under what circumstances should labor-inducing medical intervention be considered?
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Will we hire a birth doula?
What are our thoughts on a hospital vs. birthing center vs. home birth?
What differences between midwife vs.OBGYN delivery philosophies should we consider when choosing?
Who will be present for delivery?
Do we agree on standard newborn hospital procedures (eye ointment, vitamin k shot, hep b vaccine, first washing, etc.)?
When being given news that is outside of our delivery plan, whose opinion do we value most?
Who will communicate on mom's behalf if necessary?
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Is this an emergency, or do we have time to wait?
What are the benefits or advantages of doing this?
What are the risks or disadvantages?
If we do this, what other treatments or procedures might be needed as a result?
What else could we try first or instead?
What would happen if we waited before deciding?
Do we want visitors at the hospital?
Who, if anyone do we want to stay overnight?
Will we hire a postpartum doula?
Who will help with cesarean recovery, if necessary?
How soon are we comfortable with having visitors at home? Will we have ‘guidelines’ for visitors, i.e. handwashing, Tdap, length of visits, etc.?
What expectations can we set with friends and family about when to visit and for how long?
Would it be helpful to have visitors help with household upkeep?
Where can mom and newborn comfortably spend most of their time?
What meals can be made ahead of time for the postpartum period?
What resources do we know of for postpartum care professionals?
What are the early warning signs of postpartum mental illness?
Will we call our healthcare provider if there is concern about postpartum mental illness?
How can we find and contact a lactation consultant if needed?
What symptoms cause concern during physical recovery?
What are our thoughts about breastfeeding?
Thoughts on breastfeeding in public?
Will we share responsibility for nighttime feedings?
How can we acquire a breast pump?
Will we introduce a bottle? If so, when?
Where will baby sleep?
What are our thoughts about co-sleeping?
How can we co-sleep safely?
How comfortable are we with a friend or family member taking care of the baby?
What demonstrations of love and affection are most appreciated?
Is there a space at home that can be used for some time alone?
How comfortable are we talking about physical recovery and concerns about healing?
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