Personal/Social: Smiles at you spontaneously…or is she pooping?
Language: Says “ooooo” and you yell to your husband, “I think she just said Mom.”
Fine Motor/Adaptive: Flails like a Ninja Turtle flipped on its back.
Gross Motor: Can hold head up at least half-way during tummy-time. You tell everyone, “She’s so strong.”
Personal/Social: Stares at his hand like a character from “Dazed and Confused.”
Language: Laughs, especially when you get hurt.
Fine Motor/Adaptive: Puts hands together. Newborn hair has fallen out consistent with male pattern baldness. Combined, this makes him look like a chubby Mr. Burns.
Gross Motor: When holding him on your lap, you no longer worry that his neck is breaking.
Personal/Social: Throws self at toy, then wiggles enough to get caught in a cord and pull down a lamp.
Language: Says “Na.” You post to Facebook that your baby is already talking, and her first word was “Mom.” You know that babies’ first words come around one year, so you begin preparing Ivy League applications.
Fine Motor/Adaptive: Reaches for knives and other sharp objects.
Gross Motor: Sits by herself, and you think, “Oh, I can’t wait until she starts to crawl!”
Personal/Social: Waves bye-bye...after a lot of coaxing. (By the time you’re child waves, the person they were waving to has driven away, made it to the airport, and is already getting x-rayed while doing jumping jacks in a phone booth.)
Language: Says “Mamamamamamamamamamama.” You tell everyone, “I told you so.”
Fine Motor/Adaptive: Bangs two blocks together – the only two blocks older sister wants to play with.
Gross Motor: Talk to your friend on the phone about how parenting isn’t so hard. Hang up. Hear crying. Follow it to find your child in the coat closet, pinned beneath the vacuum cleaner. Think to yourself, “I wish he would just sit still.”
Personal/Social: Imitates activities that he frequently sees you doing, e.g., lays on the couch binge-watching “Friends.”
Language: Your child speaks his actual first word. His first word is “uh-oh.”
Fine Motor/Adaptive: Can put a block in a cup. Except instead of a block, it’s your phone. And no matter what way you look at it, that cup was half-full.
Gross Motor: He’s walking…right into a wall. That lip between the living room and the kitchen that you never noticed before now seems like grounds for moving.
Personal/Social: Can take off clothing as demonstrated by immediately pulling off snow boots and socks upon being buckled into the car seat.
Language: Your kid knows five words in addition to mom and dad: uh-oh, milk, shoe, cheese, ball. You update her Ivy League application to include her commitment to sustainable dairy.
Fine Motor/Adaptive: Can stack blocks four high, but insists that no blocks be stacked on top of each other. Also gets upset if you put the blocks too close to each other and sees to it that blocks are evenly dispersed across the entire living room.
Gross Motor: Can kick ball forward. Can kick sister in any direction. Falls easily when pushed by sister.
Personal/Social: Can wash hands by himself, but insists on using hand sanitizer, and as you attempt to squeeze some out, he waves his hands around like a castaway when a plane is flying overhead
Language: You can understand half of what your child says because every other word your child says is “No.”
Fine Motor/Adaptive: Can stack blocks six high, but on the fourth block throws himself to the ground because “Noooo block.”
Gross Motor: Throws ball overhand. Realistically, throws five miles per hour. Insists on playing catch from one foot in front of you and seems like a major league pitcher with revenge on his mind.
Personal/Social: Can name a friend, but insists that his name is Necklace, no matter how many times you explain that his name is Nicholas.
Language: You can understand almost all of what your child is saying, but you wish you couldn’t.
Fine Motor/Adaptive: Can copy a vertical line. Happy to demonstrate competency on walls and furniture.
Gross Motor: Starts to jump more. Weighs 30 pounds, but still manages to shake the whole house.
Personal/Social: Dresses herself. Without fail, the clothes you picked are wrong. “I hate them. There’s no pink in this outfit!”
Language: Your daughter knows at least four colors, one of which your husband doesn’t know. “Honey, she keeps saying the orange pillow is coral and argues with me when I tell her coral is white.”
Fine Motor/Adaptive: Draws a person with three parts. That line between the person’s legs is probably not what you think it is.
Gross Motor: Can balance on each foot for four seconds. Negotiates for three pretzels and a second episode of “Doc McStuffins” before she will show you.
Personal/Social: Can prepare cereal for himself, but you aren’t seriously going to let him.
Language: Your child can define at least seven of the following eight words – ball, lake, desk, house, banana, curtain, fence, ceiling. Prefers to define bodily fluids.
Fine Motor/Adaptive: Copies a square. Insists that it looks like a present. Asks when Christmas is. “Three months? That’s forever. That’s like a hundred years.”
Gross Motor: Can walk heel to toe, which is good, because this child acts like a belligerent drunk most of the time.
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