Excerpted from The Atlantic: Home Economics: The Link Between Work-Life Balance and Income Equality
Mens absence from the conversation about work and life is strange, because decisions about who works and who takes care of the children, and who makes the money and how the money is spent, are not decided by women alone or by some vague and impersonal force called society.
In March, The Pew Research Center found that about half of all working parents say it's difficult to balance career and family responsibilities, with no significant gap in attitudes between mothers and fathers.
The average working-class guy has the strange experience of belonging to a gender that is railed against for having a lock on power, even as he has none of it.
The current arrangement serves almost nobodys interests. And yet it may be harder to break than older modes of sexism. The struggles articulated by The Second Sex and The Feminine Mystique and The Female Eunuch were broadly oppositionalwomen against men, young against old, feminists against the existing structures of power.
Today, men and women are not facing off on a battleground so much as stuck together in a maze of contradictions.
...Yes, there are the occasional pieces in newspapers and magazines by new fathersa genre that at times seems more oriented toward establishing ones literary machismo than toward engaging in substantive dialoguebut men have generally failed to make themselves heard.
It’s the New Year, and I have been doing a lot of thinking. I want to say, with all of my heart and all of my soul, that I am sorry. I want apologize for anything (and everything) I have said or done that made you feel less-than or sad or small.
This year I am resolving, with a twist. There will be no diet, exercise, less swearing and drinking, "more church" kind of resolutions. This year I'm simply letting go of the things that are just not productive nor conducive to my life. This is the year I give up several of my hard-earned mom-related titles.
Surround yourself and your kids with piles of magazines and update vision boards for the fresh, new year to come. If nothing else came from this evening together, we exercised our creativity and bonded while reenacting some of the over-the-top advertisements we came across.